My inner fear levels have plagued me since I can remember. I am scared of everything that might or might not happen to me. I am a very unhappy person and struggle to get through every day. I have been to a lot of sources to help me to improve my self-confidence, self-esteem and self-image, but it did not last. Although some efforts assisted me I could not sustain it. Life is no pleasure for me. It is agony to fear life and to drag along just to get by.
I heard of the book "The Guarantee" through someone at work and the excitement created with this person prompted me to get the book. When I started to read the book I felt very comfortable, because the writer with his background understood exactly what I was going through. His experiences and the struggle he had, represent part of my life as if he lived it. I could identified with everything he has spoken about. For the first time in my life I found a soul mate who could address and talk about my inner soul. His explanations and how he struggled to find meaning in life were exactly what I have experienced. He understood what it means to be in the position which I am in, he speaks with emotion an understanding and touch every part of my inner being. It is the first time that I really felt that I can turn my life around. His recipe and road map is very direct to the point. I believe it is not going to be easy, but I have hope and find a new anchor in my spiritual process which is now more meaningful than before. Thanks Edgar you have really touch my life with an understanding and advice which have given me a new purpose in life. God bless you and your book and may you help many more individuals who struggled as I did. John.
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I am shy and introvert and fearful person. I have very little confidence and struggle very much with my self-image. Any change I have to face in my life is like a death penalty which brings major anxiety. I am a very conscientious worker but is always scared that I am not good enough and go to work every day with a heavy heart. If my supervisor calls me for something I want to run away, because I believe she is going to fire me for work badly performed. It is very stressful to work like that and it contributes to my anxiety to the extend that I wish something happens to me to get out of this continuous fear pattern. When I heard about your book I bought it and when I start reading it, I could not stop. For the first time I felt that I am not alone anymore. Your understanding of my inner feelings are amazing and I could associate with so many of the aspects you discussed in your book. Your book is like manna from heaven. The fact that you understand and have experienced what I am going through makes your advice so exiting that I have started with silent times to find that inner spirit you are talking about. I have already experienced some calmness which I have never experienced before. This has given me hope for the future. Joan.
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My life is a shambles. My friends always tell me I am attractive, good looking and athletic person. I should be one of the more popular women around. On the contrary I am very unhappy with myself, has very little confidence, a poor self-esteem and a poor self-image. I was abused as a child and could never feel that I am still worth something. I became very aggressive against life as a whole and has a very uncontrollable temper. I am always on the defensive and I hate men who endeavors to control me. I am the controlling force in my life and no one will ever have the opportunity to control me again. Unfortunately in the process I became a loner, cannot maintain a relationship with any man and believes the world owes me. When I started to read The Guarantee I could find no better image of myself than what you have described. You have given me an insight into myself that I have never had before. I always believed the only way to live life is to look after myself and attack whatever seems to threaten me. My poor-self image made me to overreact most of the time. I now realise that it is the fear in me that I might become a victim again that make me act like I do. I also realised that what has happen to me has stripped me of the dignity I deserve.I also realised that I have allowed my past to take hold of me and hold me captive for all these years. I now know that I deprived myself of happiness by allowing my past to hold me prison. The fact that I can associate with your experience and that you have found the solution made me very exited, because you did not only gave me insight and understanding of my problem but you have also given me the way out. Thank you for also speaking to me when I needed clarification and further understanding. I am already making big changes in my life and with your guidance I am sure I will find the true me and start to live the way I am supposed to live. Your book is a God sent which was given me before it was too late and I will forever be thankful that you have touched my life. Rosemary.
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As a senior manager at a large company I continue to struggle with the responsibility of my work and continuously doubt myself which lead to unnecessary stress and fear. I have attended many courses in coping skills and self-confidence improvement which seem to help for short periods of time, but it does not bring a more permanent solutions. I have never thought of the self-image as the basis for some of the indirect fears and anxiety I have to cope with. Your book has helped me to re-examine my-self, just to discover that my self-image is not what it is supposed to be. I am feeling unimportant and inferior in the presence of more senior and important people than myself. I tend to freeze in the presence of these individuals and have done myself a lot of harm when in this situation. I know I have the abilities and experience to cope well in my position and still I have indirect fear that my seniors do not view me as very competent in my work. This is a very nerve wrecking position to be in and has a very negative influence on me and my entire life. Your book has helped me to realize that my self-image needs to be improved and that I have to get rid of the negative thinking patterns before I will be able to improve my life. Thanks for the personal advice and guidance which you have given me. I have a lot of confidence in your advice, because I sense that you speak from a vast experience in industry. Many people believe that if you are the manager you know it all. They sometimes do not understand that we are also human with our own problems which need guidance and assistance. Your book and your assistance has improved my life tremendously and I trust that many more people will find solutions in your book. Trevor
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------Your book was like a guiding light in the darkness which helped me out of the religious wilderness I was in. Like you I have struggled for many years with religion and could never be satisfied with what was given me. The different churches and denominations did not provide a safe haven where I could feel comfortable with serving my Maker. Religion has lost its appeal to me and I became a lukewarm believer although I know I had to find the real truth. Your book brought me to the light. I have always feared my Maker and was never comfortable with Him, because I also saw him as the judge and juror when I have made the slightest mistake. Most of the religious people I know practice their religion with fear for the Almighty. I believe they only serve him hoping to make it to heaven. Their life here and now is but a suffering to eventually find the good life when they die. You have made me realised that this way of living is a sin in itself. God has given us everything to live a good, happy and prosperous life, but we do not understand how to live a victorious life. Thanks for letting me and my family understood that fear destroys while respect creates and enriched our lives. For the first time I can practice my spiritual connection with my Maker in respect, love and fulfilment without fearing Him. I do not have to worry about religion or church anymore, because my church is within me through my spiritual connection. Gary
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I am a very dynamic personality, but very aggressive in my approach to life. I now understand that my aggressiveness lies within my poor self-image while I am trying through my attitude and behavior to make good for the lack of deep self-belief. I have tackled a few things in my life, but eventually did not complete the projects, because I did not had the self-belief to complete it. The moment I have experienced problems I avoided the problems, instead of resolving them.I know I have the abilities but the confidence and self-belief is lacking. I hate myself for this and that does not help to improve my self-image. Your book was the eyeopener I needed to re-look at the way I think and operate. You are so right in making us aware that our thinking patterns determine our whole life. If I was able to be more positive and not doubt myself so much I would have had more success and prosperity. A big part of my failures I now know was of my own making and I am sad to realise how much I have lost, because I did not realise where the real problem lied and how to rid myself of it. Your advice and recipe I believe will help me to change my life for the better. Thanks for your personal willingness to assist. Shaun
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As a woman who are caught up in the trap of a very unhappy and abused marriage your book came as a shining light in the dark. I came to believe that I am the unworthy one in the partnership which has given me a lot of guilt feelings. I am very unhappy and lonely and my self-respect, self-worth and self-image are in tatters. I have no self-confidence anymore and has become a zombie in my own world. I was a beautiful, very attractive person with a very good self-image and self-confidence. I was popular, had many friends and life was good to me. However after my marriage my life became a nightmare and I was slowly broken down to become the pathetic person I am today. Your book has rekindle that desire in me to recapture what I had and have lost. I am fully aware that I am part and parcel of my dilemma, because I have allowed my situation to develop into the nightmare I am living today. You have given me new hope and If you support me with advice I believe I want to regain myself and turn my life around. My fear of not been able to support myself and my son I will conquer. I have now realised that the strength I had before is not gone, but it was only buried under the tragedy of what has happened to me over a few years. The power you have found in connecting with your spirit and the energy source is an encouragement for me to revive my life and claim back my freedom and happiness. Thanks for awakening the power in me. Zola
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Just to let you know I have passed one of my biggest tests since I have red your book and contact you for advice. I had to make a major proposal to the board of how to revive the company for the future and was recommended for the excellent way in which I have addressed the board of directors.Needles to say that the proposal was accepted and the money needed to implement it was also made available. With your book and help my career has suddenly got a new boost which has also given me more financial security. I cannot thank you enough for your assistance
Regards Trevor
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Your book has caused me and some of my friends to form a social group to study the details in the book and implement them. We have now discovered how many of us share the same difficulties and problems with our attitudes and behavior because of the personality problems we have. Your self-image identification as the route course of problems is an eye opener, because non of us thought that our problems are embedded in a poor self-image. You are correct in saying that a lot of individuals have this problem and do not know it or are scared to admit it. Thanks for giving us personal guidance.
The self-image group